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Am I not better than ten sons?


Am I not better than ten sons? - Elkanah's words of comfort to his wife Hannah.

This note is to the husbands and to be husbands. (Wives need not read today 😉)
What an amazing example? In this world where we love our profession, our career, our friends, our hangouts, our desires and dreams and ambitions more than our wives.
We need to understand the essence of Christian marriage. 
God created woman out of man's rib - so that he would love her as his own.
Close from the heart - to love her
Beneath his arm - to care for her and protect her.
God created woman as a helper to man. Now this is something which is often misinterpreted. Where man demands woman to do everything for his comforts quoting woman is created for man and not vice versa. But the truth is, the helper is instituted because, we need help.
She is not our subordinate to be trampled upon. She is not inferior to be made to do all the work. Infact we are inferior, because we can't live without help.
Can I do multitasking?
Brewing tea + making breakfast + cooking lunch + taking quiet time + talking to and teaching children + providing for parents + helping husband. All together at one time.
As men we are actually incapable without our wives. We need to underline this fact in our hearts. Then we wouldn't consider them as helper or inferior.
I'm not the superhero of my family. She is. Not just mine. All of ours.
It is not good for man to be alone.

Eph:5:25 Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her, to make her holy and clean washed by the cleansing of God's word.

Am I willing to give away my plans and desires for her?
Supermom or not.
Inadequate or incompatible?
God has brought us both together
God has united us in His name.
For his glorious purpose.

As men of example it's our duty to love her, as your prized possession, to care for her, to put to death your life for her. Just as Christ loved you. Nobody is superior or inferior in this relation. God has made us one unit. One flesh.

She is more precious than rubies
She will greatly enrich his life.
Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her.
But a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised

---excerpts from Proverbs 31
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