Rude

Nabal was rude and mean in his dealings with men. He might have reacted to David and his men that way, also because he might have heard of what happened to Ahimelech the priest. For providing for David, Saul killed Ahimelech. He might have loved his own life more. He might have had his own excuses. He was trying to be wise. 

But there is a way to speak. 

Rudeness and meanness comes out of a lot of frustrations that is piled up in your heart. If the Spirit convinces you that you have been rude, think what is it that keeps you angry. What is it that frustrates you. 

There is nothing that the Lord can't  bring a solution to. Tell it out to Him. Vending out to others by shouting or yelling at them is not the remedy. Because of your rude demeanor both you and others are at ill effect. 

Are you rude online? The comments that you post, the tweets and retweets and stories that you share. Are saying things out loud which you want to let out harmlessly. Political and economic statements that we make. The trolls that we enjoy to demean someone, atleast secretly we are being rude. "My generation doesn't care". " We are like this. " "This is how we are."

Are you a mean driver? How would you react to an unexpected driver? A look that would scare or agitate them? Words that we would yell out. All comes out of the same attitude. 

What is you general attitude to things around or people around (both online and offline). To subordinates, to children, to our juniors. 

Meanness comes out of an attitude of inherent pride. That I am better than them. 

Deal with the root cause. Whatever it is. He is the solution.